Adding Insult To Injury, Part Deux

I don't post about my infertility often, but every now and then I run into someone who manages to add insult to injury when they find out that Darling Daughter is our only child and that we can't have more. One such post was just over a year ago and titled WTF? Go ahead and read it so you're up to speed on one of my biggest pet peeves when it comes to the question "Is she your ONLY child?" I'll wait. It is, afterall, my mandatory lunch hour (see GWA Tuesday if you don't know why the mandatory lunch hour is an issue) and I've got plenty o' time.

*Insert Jeopardy music here.*

So, now that you've read my WTF? post and know what NOT to say to anyone who has only one child, especially if you know they have fertility issues, I ran into a variation on the theme just today and, sadly, it will likely not be the last time. A little background first:

Darling Daughter is a very bright little girl. I'm not saying it to brag, I'm stating a fact. Honestly, she's scary smart, and perfect strangers can tell this after talking to her for only a few minutes. She's also got personality out the wazoo. No shrinking violet, my kid; she's an outgoing, never-met-a-stranger people person with distinct and pronounced likes and dislikes which she happily discusses with anyone she meets. To say she's a character is accurate but somehow doesn't really encompass everything she is (I'm her mother, I ought to know).

Many people have commented that she must be a "handful" because of her intelligence and personality. I have to admit this offends me. Like any kid, she tap dances on my last nerve sometimes, but that's normal. I am not threatened by my child's intelligence or big personality - those are not unwelcome parenting challenges for me. In fact, Darling Daughter was a little annoyed with me recently when I noticed that her teacher had given her full credit for an answer on a test which was not a complete sentence and did not actually answer the question. And she was even unhappier with me when I wrote a note to her teacher telling her that Darling Daughter did not deserve full credit for her answer. But it's true. She didn't deserve full credit for it especially because she is capable of writing both a complete sentence and an answer that relates to the question. I'm not going to let her slide, and I'm not going to let her teachers allow her to slide. What's good enough for everyone else is not good enough where Darling Daughter is concerned. It is her blessing and her curse.

But I digress.

For the first time today, someone actually told me it was a blessing that I couldn't have any more children and that God had decided not to give us any more children because Darling Daughter is such a character and ipso facto a handful.

Can I get a 'What the FUCK?!?' here? Loud and pissed off? I canNOT believe anyone feels justified in saying such a thoroughly stupid and hurtful thing. Seriously, where the fuck does that woman get off? She got a WATS line to God that she knows this? Extrapolating a bit here, that must mean the Duggar children are dumber than dirt with the personalities of pet rocks (don't know who the Duggars are? Click here).

It's bad enough that I can't have any more children, I damnsure don't need anyone telling me what a blessing my infertility is because they aren't equipped to raise a kid like mine and assume I'm not, either. I'm well-equipped, fuckyouverymuch, and want more kids because (not in spite of the fact) my kid is fabulously intelligent and full of character.

Stupid. Bitch.